For some people, the mere thought of attending a singles event can make them curl up inside their oversized hoodies and question every life choice. But the thing is, they’re not as terrifying as your overthinking makes them out to be.
In fact, singles events can actually be fun.
Whether it’s your first time attending or you’re an experienced one, here’s your ultimate guide to what you should and shouldn’t do at a singles event.
DO Wear Something That Feels You
It doesn’t have to be a little black dress unless you want it to be. Don’t spend hours deciding what to wear and then questioning your choice.
Confidence doesn’t come from heels and lipstick, although both are great if they’re your style. It’s when you wear something that makes you feel like a well-rested version of yourself. Something that shows your personality.
And if that means combat boots and a statement earring, go for it.
DON’T Play a Role
You want to be liked, and that’s great, but you don’t have to try to be likable. Don’t bend over backwards or turn into a “cool girl” version of yourself just to impress others. Don’t pretend to love hiking or say you’re into something that’s not your thing just to keep a conversation going.
You’re allowed to be soft-spoken, opinionated, weird, bookish – whatever the real you is. The right people will stick around for it.
DO Consider the Vibe of the Event
If you’re in London, for instance, the scene can vary a lot. Some events are fancy, while others are more casual. Before heading out, check the tone and dress code. Singles events London can be very different from your usual Friday hangouts.
Whether you’re going for speed dating or just a night out at the club, knowing the vibe and atmosphere can help you feel more at ease.
DON’T Overshare Right Away
Being honest and vulnerable is great, but maybe save the trauma dumping for later. Especially when it’s your first time meeting someone, sharing super personal experiences or bashing your ex can come off a bit wrong.
Give the conversation some room to breathe before talking about emotional stuff. Think of it as an appetiser, not a full-course meal. And if you do hit it off, go on at least a few more dates before you start oversharing.
DO Stay Sober
Especially if you’re going out alone or if being drunk isn’t your comfort zone, try to stay off the drinks as much as possible.
Events often come with drinks, but you’re not obligated to take them just to fit in or feel more relaxed. A casual cocktail is fine if it does relax you, but you should know your limits. You want to be present and actually remember the person who said they liked your bag or shoes.
DON’T Be Afraid to Politely Exit
You don’t have to stay locked in conversation just because someone made eye contact first or reached out to you. Sometimes, people just don’t connect well, and that’s okay.
A simple “It was great chatting with you, I’m going go grab a drink” should work. Your time and energy are valuable. So, if someone’s being weird or just boring, you’re allowed to walk away.
